Question from fellow parents?

All right... I know this isn't the point... but this is the kind of crap that happens when you are a 19 year old legal adult and go knocking up a 15 year old. YOU (not her-- YOU) need to go to court and have custody and child support set up legally if you don't have this in place already. If the guy doesn't like the kid-- surely the grandparents whom they live with would be intervening in the matter.. and if he mistreated your daughter, I would think they would not tolerate this and have put him out by now, wouldn't they? I think you were within your rights to ask her, but perhaps you took her by surprise or asked in a manner that seemed 'rude'? The best way to amend the situation, if you are able to speak to her (or better yet... just talk to the guy. He;s involved in your daughter's life, so try to at least be cordial). Just explain to him that 2 different mutual friends had stated to you that he doesn't like your daughter, and you found the remarks a strange thing to say, and rather unsettling. And that the more you thought about it, the more concerned you became and stressed over it, and it came out sounding like an accusation instead of discussing it calmly. But really, if this new boyfriend dislikes the little one... someone would have stepped up by now, it seems.